To demand to be told that one was loved was to suck the love right out of the phrase...
If nothing else, reading those letters introduced me to a world beyond 'sex is one man on top of one woman' (ooooopsie, there I go again with the tasteless/indecorous/explicitness stuff... #Ahem.# Anyhow...).
Nooo, all we ever hear about is how that nasty bad dirty sex is everywhere and it'll cripple you for life, if you're under 21, if you even catch so much as a teeny peek at it. Oh, and that nice person in the chatroom is going to turn up on your doorstep, straight-razor in one hand and a kiddie-porn mag in the other.
One of the most subliminal messages sent on the subject of females, sex and any form of it is: "Good girls don't do That."